Her Version vs My (Correct) Version

CAITLYN SAYS:  She didn’t have a say as to what house we rented for our weekend in Niagara.

TRUTH:  As a group, it was decided an AirBnB would make more sense than a hotel.  I then researched dozens of options.  I took her suggested home and 3 of the ones that I thought would be good candidates and created a Facebook voting poll for our group message thread.  The others ladies, myself, AND Caitlyn unanimously voted for the house we all liked the best based on price, number of beds, and location.


CAITLYN SAYS:  Any time she suggested an activity, she was brushed aside and no one listened to her.

TRUTH:  Caitlyn thought it would be fun to go to a water park and rent a cabana.  I called the location and got prices and posted the information in our message thread.  Caitlyn mentioned a tribute band playing the night we arrived.  In the message thread, I agreed to the concert while a couple of ladies said that they wouldn’t be there in time, but to go ahead.


CAITLYN SAYS:  I changed plans multiple times.  I wanted to go to the haunted house, so we did.  I changed dinner plans in order to have my piercing done.  Again, she didn’t have a say in anything, I just got my way.

TRUTH:  We went downtown as a group when that was not necessary.  I wanted to go to the haunted house and said that A) not everyone had to come and B) I was also willing to cancel that idea.  Caitlyn did not even go to the haunted house.  But she did want to go down to the falls, so we did.

I decided to have my nipple pierced, which was something I had been talking about during the whole planning process of this trip.  I left to go and have this done at 4PM.  I was back by 5PM after going to the grocery store to get soda – for Caitlyn.  I went to have a little nap (as did she!) and when I came out, she was still gone and had told everyone that she didn’t want to go to dinner.


CAITLYN SAYS:  She was the one to find the other half of our group while all I did was complain.  She then navigated us through the casino to a restaurant and then out and to the nightclub.

TRUTH:  She found the other half of the group because she is a control freak who was uninterested in waiting for instructions as to where they were.  I waited until we knew where we were going.  And yes, my killer sexy heels were killing my feet as we walked all the way across the planet in the freezing cold at maximum speed.  I don’t know about the casino thing, but ok.  As for the restaurant – SHE DIDN’T WANT DINNER!!  And I specifically said I was not hungry.  So fuck off – she wanted to eat.  We went to the club as a group and I don’t know who was leading.  I was probably whining and complaining the whole way there.  I know I was mad as we passed the club I wanted to go to the in first place.


CAITLYN SAYS:  For the first hour at the club, she was the only one dancing.  She was there “for hours” and was assaulted twice before deciding to go home.  She then noticed that this club was close to the AirBnB she had suggested and was mad cause she could have walked back alone instead of needing an uber.

TRUTH:  She was miserable and we all knew it.  The thing is this:  I told her she didn’t have to come because I knew it wasn’t her thing and I was ok with that.  I personally wanted to dance and had said this to the group weeks before we even went on this weekend trip.  Regarding the assaults… that really has nothing to do with me.  First of all, I didn’t even know it had happened.  Secondly, I didn’t want to go to this club.  The club that someone told us that the American guys are particularly aggressive at, but everyone insisted would be fine.  More to that next.  And the AirBnB – well we went over that already.


CAITLYN SAYS:  She needed to go and buy clothes she didn’t want or need so that we could go out to the club I was forcing us all to go to.

TRUTH:  Part One:  1.  Months in advance, I inform everyone that I want to go dancing, but if it’s not your thing, no worries, I can go alone.  This is the only thing that I really wanted to do over the weekend, so I was going to go, with or without people.  2.  I put our names on the guest list at Club A.  I tell the group.  3.  The morning we are leaving, I show everyone in the FB thread the dress I am bringing to go out clubbing to.  We drove up together and the entire time we are talking about dancing and getting dressed up.  4.  Saturday morning, I tell everyone that the club sent the dress code.  Caitlyn says that she doesn’t have anything to wear to the club.  She says that she will go to value village and buy something.  5.  She got dressed with everyone, she even let everyone do her hair and makeup.

Part Two:  I picked Club A because no one else cared where we went – until Saturday afternoon, AFTER I went to have my piercing.  I came out of the bathroom and everyone was talking about instead going to Club B because there was no cover charge… even though we were informed the crowd of guys were known for being pushy.  Not my choice, but what the group decided.


CAITLYN SAYS:  She messaged the group about going to another club/bar that had food and maybe dancing.  Or we could just all go home.  The 3 of them went home and apparently one of them received a message that the 3 of us were also coming home.  She then ordered pizza and went to the balcony.

TRUTH:  I informed everyone before we left to go to the casino/club that my phone was almost dead.  Stupid, I know, but I forgot to charge it.  Anyway, I did not get that message.  One of the girls I was with didn’t even look at her phone, and the last one just said we should go home.  I agreed because… why the fuck would we leave one club to go to another?


CAITLYN SAYS:  I called her and the other two “bitches”.

TRUTH:  Yes.  I said “We came home and these bitches aren’t even here.”  All the lights were off, it was quiet, and I had just been told that they found a different bar.  I was annoyed and very, very drunk.


CAITLYN SAYS:  She was pissed but kept a smile on her face the whole time.

TRUTH:  She didn’t talk to anyone, she stayed on her phone, she declined to play the group card game to instead sit alone, she then went to bed without much more than a “Goodnight”.  We knew she was pissed off.


CAITLYN SAYS:  We ditched her and abandoned her with no food on Sunday morning.

TRUTH:  This part bugs me so much.  I got up in the morning, still a bit tipsy.  We needed to check out at 11AM.  I started packing my crap when it was mentioned that I could drive back in Car B with my bestie and Allie so that we could get me home a little faster and they could see my daughters before they went for a nap (my BEST friend wanted to see her “nieces” because she’d gotten them gifts and hadn’t seen the girls in a year).  There was also freezing rain in Ottawa, where my bestie and A live, so they wanted to get on the road.  I mentioned this to the other two ladies who drove up with Caitlyn and I, and they didn’t see a problem.  Sara was bunking with Caitlyn and she was going to wake her up, but felt bad.  We all then started bringing our bags and shit downstairs, I got in the car and left.  As for the food – 1.  I bought all of that fucking food.  2.  I know I left the bananas, cause Sara wanted them.  3. SHE’S A FUCKING ADULT.


CAITLYN SAYS:  We should have woken her up.

TRUTH:  Maybe.  But since she is my neighbour, pretty much (yep, awkward), I didn’t think we needed to have some long, drawn out goodbye.  And since she doesn’t know my bestie and A overly well, we didn’t think she would care either way.  The other two ladies didn’t think it was a problem to just leave, and neither did we.  5 out of 6 people said it was alright to go home, we really didn’t think that we were doing anything wrong.  She then made a comment about the cleaner being the one to wake her up, but… there were two other people there!  Why would waking her up be my job??


CAITLYN SAYS:  I didn’t have the balls to call her on Sunday after she texted me to say she was pissed.

TRUTH:  SHE TEXTED ME FIRST.  I then apologized 3 times and she replied with “Thanks”.  I tried to speak with her many times and was shut out.  It was 3 weeks later when I AGAIN reached out to her to see if she wanted to meet.  I text because no one calls anyone anymore, she wouldn’t have answered anyway, and I am busy and don’t want to call her.  If she can give me the silent treatment then she can deal with me texting instead of calling.



OK, now that I got that out, I feel a bit better.

Honestly, she twisted every little thing to make it my fault.  My husband says that she was just mad and I was her punching bag, she was “projecting”.  And maybe that is the case, but it’s so totally uncalled for.  I am no one’s punching bag – NO ONE.

I have therapy tomorrow… and I’m fairly certain this will be the thing we chat about for the whole hour.  I’m writing to try and get it all off of my heart and out of my brain.  I have been talking to Cody about it, but I don’t want to burden him either.  He and Caitlyn’s husband are good friends.  So, I’ll talk with my therapist tomorrow and then maybe put most of this to bed.





ps – to clarify the assaults:  A female had “hit on” Caitlyn and felt her up; someone elbowed her in the ribs.

I take sexual assault and violence against women very seriously.  Had Caitlyn told me what happened, of course I would have been there to assist, report, whatever needed to happen.  But she did not tell me.

And I hate to say it, but… in a packed club, people get elbowed.  Generally it’s accidental.  Not always, but sometimes.  Once again, had I known, I would have done what I could to help!

Blog Challenge – Day 30


I have very basic hopes for my blog. I hope that it can be support to someone going through similar issues. I hope it can be a comic relief to others.  I don’t think I’ll be getting a book or movie deal from it.

Mostly, this blog is just my outlet.  I hope to one day be able to share it with my children so they can read all about what it was like to be pregnant with them, what they were like when they were infants.

But in case I do get that movie deal, I’m hoping for Jennifer Aniston to play my part.


Who would play you in your life movie?

The Real Neat, Versatile Blogger (Awards)

Oh, my Grace, my sister-from-another-mister, my G-Unit.  Thank you so, so much for nominating me for these awards!  I love them and have so much fun doing them.  You, my friend, are such a wonderful person and I’m glad we’re friends!  Please go over and check out Planting Beans – you’re sure to love the blog and the blogger!



For more information about the The Versatile Blogger Award be sure to check out their blog.

These are the rules when you are nominated:

1. Post the award on your blog
2. Thank the person who nominated you
3. Share seven facts about yourself
4. Nominate 15 blogs
5. List the nominees and let them know

Seven facts, huh….

A)  I have my own crafting business and I make polymer clay ornaments.  I am thinking of branching out and adding a whole other side to the business that may include baby related items like blankets, bibs, and headbands.

B)  I love nail polish!  I own far too many bottles, most of them being pink.  However, since becoming pregnant, my nails seem to be a little more soft and so I have to keep them short, which does not make my fingers look long and skinny like I’d like.

C)  I hate flying.  When my husband booked a trip to Iceland to cheer me up/celebrate my impending 30th birthday last year, I was so happy, but devastated that we’d have to fly for 5 hours.

D)  I love playing board games and card games with friends or even with just Cody.  My favorites include Yahtzee, Skip Bo, and Cards Against Humanity (though I’m not proud to admit the last one).

E)  I have a recurring dream where there is a hair on my eyeball and when I go to pull it out, it slices my eye.

F)  I once pulled a 6’2″, 200+lbs man out of a picnic table, by myself, because he was having a seizure.  That man was my brother and I was only able to do it because I was completely terrified that he was going to get hurt if I didn’t get him on the ground and onto his side ASAP.  My husband was with me and didn’t even know what was happening until my brother and I  were both on the ground and I was screaming to Cody to call an ambulance.

G)  I have a goal to swim in all of the Great Lakes.  The only two remaining are Lake Superior and Lake Michigan. After, I will move on to the Oceans…. maybe.

That list was hard to generate…

My list of nominees, in no particular order:

WTF Ovaries
The Almost Mom
The Recurrently Hopeful
Love, Peace, and Infertility
Waiting For Baby Bird
Reinventing Kristen (who I’d love to read an update on!)
Life’s Journey
My Ectopic
Our Greatest Desire
PCOS and the Mommy in Me
Ramblings of a Barren Heart
Bruised Banana
City Life/Farm Wife
My New Normal
Electric Mystery

I will post on each blog as soon as I can. Please excuse the generic copy/paste note I leave each of you….



The Rules
1. Put the Award Logo in your post.
2. Answer 7 questions asked by the person who nominated you.
3. Thank the people who nominated you, linking to their blogs.
4. Nominate any number of bloggers you like, linking to their blogs.
5. Let them know you nominated them (by commenting on their blog)

The Questions and My Answers:
1.If you won the lottery who would you tell if anyone?
I would probably tell my parents, since I’d like to buy them their Winnebago. Other than that, I’d probably keep it a secret so I could actually donate money to charities, rather than my greedy brothers, haha.

2.Which fictional character can you most relate too?
From a book, maybe Siddalee from Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood. From TV, maybe Naomi from the new 90210 – only because I have that type of sass, sometimes.

3.What’s your guilty pleasure?
Food: Dill Pickle chips with Dill Pickle dip. Media: Pinterest

4.Who was your favorite band in high school?
Oh boy…. I loved Rancid for a while. Before that, I had my BSB/Spice Girl stages.

5.You’re moving to a different country and never coming back. You can take three living people/animals and three of your belongings with you. Who and what do you take?
Well, I am going to pretend that this happens tomorrow and I have yet to birth my two princesses. I would take my husband and two cats. My babies would join us later 😉 As for the possessions: I think I would bring my all of my photos, my diary, and my passport in case I wanted to come back.

6.How did you celebrate your last birthday?
My birthday was last month, actually! We had some friends come over and then we all went out to dinner. My husband bought me 1 gift every day for a week, which was thoughtful and fun!

7.What is something that people might not know about you?
People probably do not know how shy I am. I can put up a good front, but meeting new people gives me some serious anxiety and I always feel really awkward. I much prefer to be at home with my husband rather than at a group gathering. Also, when it comes to Fight or Flight – I always choose fight. Also, my ass is numb from sitting here and typing this for so long.

My Nominees:
The Barren Librarian
Eventual Momma
My Perfect Breakdown

My Questions for the Nominees:
A) What scares you about becoming a mom?
B) What is something that you’re talented at?
C) What is something that your partner does to annoy you?
D) Chocolate or Vanilla ice cream?
E) Would you want to be nominated for another award?
F) What is your favorite way to eat a potato?
G) If you could have unlimited, all inclusive, all paid trips to ONE place, where would you pick?

Once again, I will post on each blog as soon as I can. Please excuse the generic copy/paste note I leave each of you….

Thanks again, Grace!



Seriously, I have no idea what the infertility/fertility abbreviations mean.  I know “TTC”, and that was pretty much the extent.  And even then, “TTC” is what we call our transit system here in Toronto.

If you’re like me and you have no friggen clue what people are trying to say with “BFN”, “2WW”, or “DH”, you might want to check out THIS list.  In fact, you might want to bookmark it, keep it open, or even print it.